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Today on my dashboard a picture of a girl popped up, she was wearing this skirt. So excited was I at the sight of this skirt, that I physically reacted and gasped before immediately going through the frenzy of link-following clickery that led me eventually to Romwe.
If you don’t know about Romwe and are of the plus size body type, I’d suggest not going there. Its the kind of unfairly stylish website that supplies a mind boggling array of trendy unique clothing to anyone who can fit it and has the money.
I’m not talking about the usual level of trendiness one can find at any old Forever 21. I’m talking about the kind of off-beat, wacky, borderline unwearable treasures you see on tumblr or on lookbook and think “God I’d love to put my body in that”
Who wouldn’t want to spend a day sashaying around in a dark green velvet skirt with glinting gold cross decorations? Who wouldn’t want to shock and awe the masses in a dress with a cat’s face on it, or a skirt printed with a painting of what might be The Last Supper?
It’s these kinds of painfully cool, wonky, and amazing items that can take someone’s wardrobe to a completely new level. I’m always all for being optimistic about a plus sized girl’s ability to bang together a look similar to, or exactly like, what’s currently in fashion. I like the idea of being able to put together a look that is current and attractive, despite having to use 10 times the effort that a straight sized girl would. But despite this mindset, sometimes I get knocked on my bum by websites like Romwe, which offer to the masses a cut-price version of the kind of otherworldly fashion wares obscure labels (like Black Milk or Wildfox) previously had a monopoly on.
I guess its just really bitter to be reminded that, despite clawing out some market space for Those Like Me, plus size fashion is still so small and so limited. While items like the ones I’ve posted above are niche even in straight size fashion, it still remains that you can go to multiple places and find galaxy print leggings, dresses, skirts, etc. while there is maybe a single and very obscure place you can find halfway decent ones for plus size women.
Since my tastes veer towards the quirky, Wednesday Addams gothic-esque side, its tragic for me to browse Romwe and clap eyes on so many items that exactly suit what I want out of a piece of clothing.
Plus size fashion designers, where are you? Can you hear me? Because I don’t know how you can deny me and any like me the opportunity to stunt like no one’s business in clothes like these. Do you know how fly I’d look in a mosaic print dress? No? Well neither the hell do I, and you know why? Cuz ya’ll need to step your game up. Its things like wanting to be able to wear things you like and can’t find in your size, that contribute to girls’ obsession with being thin.
I never so much wanted to “be like other girls” or to “be able to dress like other girls” as I wanted to “be able to find clothes I like and fit my style”. And what plus size clothes really seem to be saying sometimes is, if this one style is not your style then you are SOL because that’s all we’ve got.
As grateful as I am to be able to find a freakum dress now as opposed to ankle length full-sleeve sacks of yesteryear, and as much as I think Forever 21+ has grown since its inception, I do still feel the sting of exclusion. It might feel even shittier now than it did before when there was nothing. The idea behind it being, if you can give me the basics and have worked out that a size 18 can look good in the same kind of thing a size 8 can, why don’t you make more interesting things for girls in the plus range? I for one know a body con dress isn’t as worrisome as more structured, tailored items, the fabric stretches…a lot. So yeah, I’m pretty dissatisfied, and I know that when the charm of having to find my unique items in alternative ways (ebay, thrift) wears off, I’ll be left more than dissatisfied…I’ll probably be back to anger and bitterness.
Amen sister. I’m on the smaller size of plus and still find these frustrations. Let’s find where these people get their fabric printed and jack them for our own designs.
I think the source of my complaint is that we have a body positive community that says all bodies are beautiful but still, in probably subconscious ways, rewards having a body that is the mainstream ideal, only scaled up.
There is a feeling of being too fat to be pretty according to societal standards and then too shapeless to be pretty according to fat standards. There is in some ways a hierarchy of fat bodies where some echoes of the dominant ideal are reinforced. Even fat clothing retailers favor an hourglass body type or proportions that are “curvy”."
Hell the fuck to the yes god damn mothafuckin’ straight up truth. As a superfat who definitely does NOT have that “ideal” fat body, there is nothing more recognizable than this issue right here.
And it’s dangerous for those who are new to the movement as well as those who are still working through a lot of shit with their body image.
Co-signed. Fucking fed up with still not being visible/included.
And there you go, any argument you have ever had in support of fat-shaming just flew out the window. TA TA
Of course fat people have been saying the same thing for decades. But of course anything a fat person says about themselves or their own health is laughed off as “wishful thinking”. Our own experiences are constantly being denied as “head in the sand” “it will catch up to you eventually” mentality. Despite those of us that exercise regularly and eat healthy, we’re told that none of it matters because we’re still fat -and therefore couldn’t POSSIBLY be healthy.
The sad thing about it though, is that people should not have to be healthy in order to deserve to be treated with human decency and respect and not have to live their lives stigmatized, bullied, marginalized, and shamed. People are deserving of equality and respect reguadless of if they are healthy or not.
Delightfully, (according to the alumni magazine) my alma mater is apparently performing an extensive study of ‘metabolically healthy obesity’ in order to differentiate types and causes of obesity—in large part so that healthy-but-obese people are no longer harmed by mindless, uninformed weight loss campaigns but also to understand how/why various bodies process nutrition and produce energy differently.
According to the numbers quoted in the latest report, at least 30% of obese people (even ‘morbidly obese’ people) are metabolically healthy and would be harmed by restricted eating and not in any way benefited by weight loss. The school is studying the biochemical relationship that different metabolic types have with different food types over a long-term program. Their hope is that they’ll be able to better identify how each body processes food and that instead of focusing on weight and weight loss ultimately nutritionists and dieticians will be able to provide information on how to feed each body type in order to create a healthy and beneficial state for each person—not so that people will lose weight as a rule. They also hope to sever the relationship, in the public consciousness, between weight and health because it is endangering lives.
Reblogging it again for Moniquill’s delightful addition.
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